A few years ago, I was having coffee with my friend Whitney. We started talking about different leads and follows, and how easy (or not-so-easy) it was to lead/follow certain people. The subject then turned to a mutual acquaintance, Dick [Dick's and Whitney's names changed to preserve anonymity]. I can't recall her exact words, but Whitney said something like this:
Rob... you are freakishly easy to follow. With Dick, his lead is more, "You have no choice but to go this way;" I'm forced to turn in the direction he wants me to. But with you, it's more, "I'd like you to go this way." It's like, "Oh... it's really clear that you want me to go in this direction." That's the difference between you two... the last time I danced with you, you had me start walking around and I suddenly realized, "Oh, $***... I'm doing Tornillo."
Whitney- if by chance you're reading this- thank you so much for those kind words.
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